Day 3 – Get Active
In the morning you need to sit down and think about what it is you like to do, or what new activity you would like to learn. Your goal here is to meet people so playing Doom on your computer is not good enough. You need to be thinking about what group activities outside of your apartment you like to do, or would like to try. One of my favorites for meeting women is at yoga groups, sound gay? The one group I go to has 36 people attending and I am the only man. How gay is that?
Ok human pretzel isn’t your thing? No problem a quick search in your town and there is a ton of activities and groups to think about. As well as singles focused groups, a quick Google search for “Groups for singles Oakland” gave me a number of ideas. Also a search for “Hobby groups Oakland” was just as good. So find something you like to do and go join. If you need to get in shape, think about a gym membership. A tip here if you don’t want to fall into the buy a gym membership then never use it trap, which most gyms make the biggest part of their revenue from is to also sign up with a personal trainer who will kick you ass into getting motivated.
So you have thought about what you would like to do or learn, make sure it is something social that should have a bunch of single women, acting classes, exercise classes, book clubs, whatever so long as it involves being social and meeting new people. Now get out their and do it, and remember day one and the grooming bit. Read the article ‘How to Dress for a Date’ and consider this a date night, basically the same way you want to impress a woman during a date, you want to impress everyone you meet. First impressions are historically had to change so make a good one.
Picking your event
When picking your social event of choice try to make sure it is something you enjoy or think you will, not just a place to pick up women. Reason for this is if you really enjoy it and you don’t meet the woman of your dreams it doesn’t really matter, you are still having a good time, practicing your social skills and who knows the people you meet here might be able to introduce you to their hot sister or room mate. You just never know how or when you are going to meet someone great and the best way to go about it is to increase your social network. Introductions from other people are one of the quickest ways to break the ice with a woman in an incredibly ego safe way since if Jane suggests Jill meets you, Jill will at least be polite and spend some time with you since she doesn’t want to look like a bitch to Jane. Also if her friend says you are a good guy you are already prequalified and it means Jill will have social acceptance with you. If things do not work out, so what you had a chance to sharpen your new social skills with women.
Increase your social network
Forgetting about that though the whole reason for this is to get out and meet new people, chances are your present social network is stagnating and you need to shake it up a little. When you are at your new social event of choice start looking around and see who is here. If someone does catch your eye approach her, you have a perfect reason already and a common interest. Lets say it’s a photography group, “Hey I’m new here, have you been around this group for a while?” Easy, harmless, and no chance of rejection, try not to leer at her breasts, I know it can be difficult. Once you have gone a couple of times or if you end up talking to someone for a considerable period of time at the first meeting get her to go for a coffee or drink afterwards with you. When ‘asking’ someone to go for a coffee I usually never actually ask, the why you phrase something makes it easy or difficult to refuse, you want to make it difficult to refuse in a non threatening way. Easy way to do this is changing how you say it.
“Would you like to go for a coffee after we are done here?” Easy to say No
change to
“I know a great little bistro around the corner and could use a coffee, come with me, you can tell me about why you love photography so much.” Hard to refuse.
Changing how you phrase things in a non threatening, but somewhat demanding why, will drastically increase the number of times a woman says yes to you. At the risk of getting bashed by women’s rights activists, I can tell you that the vast majority of women want a man to make the decisions, be confident about it, and lead them instead of been meek and waiting for them to take charge.