Is She Cheating?
9 Signs your partner is cheating on you
First let me say that these are signs that your partner “MIGHT” be cheating on you, so if you do find that she matches one or a few of them, don’t do anything stupid or jump to conclusions. Domestic violence and the resulting jail time is definitely not worth it. If you do find a few of these signs that she “MIGHT” be cheating on you then one thing for sure, you have some work to do in your relationship if you plan on keeping it together. Most men at some point in their relationship always ask the question “Is she cheating on me?”
Do not confront her unless you are sure
Remember if you are not 100% sure and confront her with this accusing her of cheating you could very well be destroying the relationship even if you are wrong by being overly jealous or paranoid. Most women want you to be a little bit jealous of their friends, etc. in an innocent way, it helps them believe that you care and still want her. If you accuse her of being unfaithful and you are wrong, you are in for a world of hell.
If you are sure that she is cheating and have the proof to back it up; before confronting her you better think about what you want and if you still wish to be with her. Once you have these answers then you should confront her, tell her exactly what you know, how you feel about it, and most importantly what you plan to do. Just be sure you know what you want prior to broaching the subject.
9 Signs she “MIGHT” be Cheating
1: Her interest in sex with you changes dramatically
This can be either way, she has no interest in sex with you or her appetites are changing drastically. She could be having a considerable amount more sex with you because someone else is rubbing her the right way and she feels guilty about it and tries to justify it in her mind, and cover it up, by trying to be more caring and loving to you. More likely then not though, she will have much less sex with you and have no interest in it. The hot fiery sex you use to have is gone and you start feeling like she is only between the sheets with you because she feels she has to be.
2: She is putting more effort into her appearance and looking sexy
If your partner has been going to work for the last couple of years wearing a librarian outfit and all of the sudden she changes and starts wearing sexy cloths, spending way more time on her make up and generally dressing to impress, you should start to worry. Many times a gym membership will come along with this and she will be very focused on looking as hot as possible. If she hasn’t bothered trying to impress you for a while, who is she trying to impress?
3: She nags you all the time
Everything you say she starts a fight with, you feel like you can’t say anything right and she is angry at you all the time. She may be trying to justify an affair and also by looking for the worst in you and trying to convince herself that what she is doing is the right thing. She could also be trying to get you to leave her, most times women are cheating they will want to spend as much time with their new hot and steamy fling as possible and by subconsciously breaking down the relationship will give her more time to get away from you and make you not want to be with her.
4: She has a secret friend that she won’t talk about
Big red flag here, if she is spending time with “oh just someone from work” or “a friend from way back” she will not want to talk about him with you, she will be vague and secretive about it. The last thing she wants is to have to tell you about the guy that she is sleeping with while your at work.
5: Hanging up the phone when you walk into the room
This could be a coincidence and just timing, if it happens occasionally, no big deal. However if she is tossing the phone at the receiver as soon as you walk into the room and when asked about who it was the answer is always something non committal you should start to wonder who it is.
6: She becomes more autonomous
When the word “we” leaves her vocabulary and she is always talking about “I” she is moving away from you. If she is doing more things on her own on a regular basis and you find you are not invited you should start wondering who is filling that need. She could be trying to leave you but can’t work up the nerve to do it, or just wants more time with her new fling.
7: You are no longer important
All of a sudden she stops nagging you and doesn’t care if you don’t want to go with her to the work Christmas party that you have been dragged along to every year for the past five and had to be on your best behavior. When you compliment her she doesn’t really notice and you start feeling that you could take a crap in her favorite shoes and she wouldn’t say a word and just rinse them out. When this happens you have a serious problem with your relationship and it is probably coming to an end.
8: She starts being really secretive
She no longer shares her daily events with you, the password on her blackberry and laptop have changed and you have to drag every detail out of her on what she did today. She doesn’t want to tell you anything and is getting really vague.
9: She deflects questions
You should be suspicious when she answers questions with a question, “What time did you get home last night?” answer “Didn’t you notice when I got in? You were half awake” Doing this is usually a response of someone giving themselves a second or two to think and come up with a good lie.