How to Pick up Women at the Bar
You want to know how to pick up women at the bar and you are going out tonight not to find a girlfriend, you’re just hoping to get laid. You have an itch to scratch you would prefer someone else did it rather then yourself. With a little bit of practice you will be able to pick out the woman in the bar who came there for the same purpose. Before you ask, yes, women will go to the club for the same purpose and your heading out for tonight. Sometimes they just want to get laid as well with no strings attached.
I have had some of my best success while travelling through a different town and was just there for the night. A woman who maybe had a bad time with her boyfriend or husband and wanted to get back at him, however she wants someone that isn’t going to be hanging around and cause her trouble in the future, she will usually also want someone who her friends and family are not going to know about. It is allot more dangerous for a woman to go out to get laid with people she knows. Her reputation might be at stake, she definitely does not want her co-workers to know, etc.
I have been with women whose primary concern is that I will be leaving in the morning. Surveys have shown that 68% of women say they would have an affair if there were no chance of being caught. 15% of married woman under 35 admit to having sex outside of their marriage. What does this mean to you? There are a considerable number of women in the club that are there just to get it on with someone that night. You need to be able to spot them move on them before someone else does.
I generally recommend if you are going out with the expressed purpose of having a one-night stand that you go away from your normal haunts and venues. Your not looking for a girlfriend tonight so you probably don’t want to run into her again once you leave in the morning. Check the Internet or speak to friends about busy places a little ways from where you live. It can be in the same city just not a place you regularly hang out.
Think about getting a hotel room for the night, preferably within a 5-minute walk to the club you will be going to. In the fridge if they have one, or in the sink with ice put in a ½ a dozen drinks, a few beers if you like them, some wine coolers, if you know wine a good bottle of a white is always a good one to get someone to come back for. If you use the bed before going out, re-make it before heading out. Make sure you have condoms in the nightstand. This does not need to be an expensive hotel, but it should be clean and decent.
Get yourself cleaned up and ready to go out to pick up women. Remember here you are outside of your normal area and circle of friends, you can be a different person if you choose, dress nice, have a back story on why you are there, use a different name if you like. Don’t push the back-story to far as you do not want to get caught lying. Keep it simple.
Your in the bar and you need to find the woman you are going to be with for the night. Look around, first pick are women sitting by themselves, if a woman is in the bar by herself there is only a few reasons why. She might be waiting for someone, easy to tell, does she keep looking at her watch and the door? She could be the girlfriend of the band, does she look at other guys or is she focused on the band? Her date might be in the bathroom or outside for a cigarette, is there a drink across from her?
If she is truly there alone and not waiting for someone, chances are she is hoping to meet someone new. Women very rarely go out alone just for drinks. If you have established she is there alone, sit near her but not beside her. Call the bartender over and buy her a drink. I know this seems tacky, but it works. One of two things will happen when the drink is served, she will turn and look where the bartender is pointing that you sent a drink, smile and hold it up to say thank you. Now is the time to go introduce yourself and your halfway home. Other possibility, she will try to refuse it, at this point you still should go over there, she will probably still be polite and say thank you “but I am waiting for my husband” or some other excuse, you should apologize and say “Please enjoy the drink on me, no offence meant.” And walk away.
If it didn’t work out, start again with a new one, the odds are in your favor that you will succeed tonight, you just might have to approach a few different women. Why not sign up for our free email mini-course for help getting her back to your hotel room?