What to do on a First Date
A question that I get all the time from guys is what to do on a first date? Well I will explain how I generally do this. First of all let me say you should set a very tight budget for a first date, you do not want to be spending a ton of cash on a person you are just getting to know. Who knows after the first date you might not want to see her again. It also sets the wrong president right from the get go.
I will usually make a first date a very quick and short affair, I would prefer it does not run more then 1 or 2 hours maximum and I always leave myself and escape clause. The whole point of a first date is to get to know each other and to qualify her to find out if you even want to see her again, does she meet your standards, and do you feel comfortable with her? She should also be doing the same.
I will never make a first date a meal date when set, if it is going exceptionally well and she might be coming back to your place then maybe. Generally though it is a drink or coffee date. Notice I said DRINK not DRINKS. I will generally arrange it with a text message for instance –-5pm Lions Head, corner of 1st and George St., meet for a quick drink? –
Be sure you noticed I said “quick drink” this gives me an exit incase it is not going well. Pick a quiet place preferably with sofas where you can sit next to each other rather then across from one another. This way you can easily get some touching and escalating in. I generally pick a place near my apartment just incase it looks like we might be able to go back there and close the deal on the first date.
The reason for a quiet place and not and exciting first date is you want to get to know each other, you also want to leave her wanting more by making it short and sweet. You also do not want to be spending loads of cash on her and I don’t care if your Bill Gates reading this, if you spend like a sailor on the first date you will become a sugar daddy and not a sex partner. You will be used for what she can get.
She has met you at the quiet venue you have picked and you two are chatting up a storm, conversation is going great and you two are getting along well. Time to leave! After and hour or and hour and a half at most you say, “this has been really fun but I have to run.” Do not make another date, leave her wondering if you are interested or not, make her chase you if possible. If she asks where you have to go say your meeting with friends, or visiting your sick granny, whatever. Just be sure you are the one to end the date, not her.
You already set this up in advance with the text that said “quick drink” you have accomplished everything you need to at this time, you have gotten to know her, you have hopefully gotten her comfortable with you touching her, she is interested in you but doesn’t know to much so you are still a mystery, and you leave on a high note not waiting till you have an uncomfortable moment of silence or a time when you run out of things to say. In a couple of days you can ask her for dinner and a movie at your place and she will be eager to come since she is still thinking about you.